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Washington Post  

The most down-to-earth, readable parenting book I’ve come across in a long time.

Damour builds on and references solid research in psychology, but the heart of Untangled are the real-life examples and anecdotes from Damour’s decades of experience in counseling adolescent girls and their parents. Without preachiness or jargon, Damour illustrates how to talk to our girls, how to set limits, and how to respect and foster our daughters’ growing independence.

Boston Globe

Such a welcome new resource.

Author Lisa Damour, director of Laurel School’s Center for Research on Girls, draws on stories of girls and their families to discuss ways to have constructive conversations. She also advises parents on what is cause for worry and what is not.

Publisher’s Weekly  

Parents will want this book on their shelves next to established classics of the genre.

Psychologist Damour begins this clear-sighted parenting guide with an epigraph from psychoanalyst Anna Freud: “There are few situations in life which are more difficult to cope with than an adolescent son or daughter.” In response, Damour offers a hopeful, helpful new way for parents to talk about—and with—teenage girls. More descriptive than prescriptive, the volume is anecdote-driven, featuring entertaining, insightful stories drawn from the author’s experience.

Your Teen Magazine  

Untangled: The new bible of parenting books.

Untangled articulates a new perspective on what’s happening to your teenager – with friends, family, school, and much more. The book provides two essential tools – a roadmap for how parents can improve the day-to-day relationship with their teenagers, and the big picture of raising capable, young adults ready to be successful in the world. Untangled is comforting, without judgment, and above all, so wonderfully practical.

Kirkus Review 

Expert information and counsel on helping parents raise well-rounded girls.

For parents who wonder why their delightful little girl has been replaced by an often belligerent, eye-rolling, disrespectful semiadult, Damour’s advice will be a great help. The author identifies how girls slide in and out of childhood as they test boundaries, how hanging out with peers can create conflict as well as a much-needed new tribe, and the benefits and problems surrounding social media, including the impact of bullying. She gives parents methods to broach difficult topics in a firm and understanding manner. Using Damour’s guidance, these transitional years will be far less fraught with angst and parents will be able to create stronger bonds with their daughters.


It’s a wise, funny, highly insightful guide to the mysterious minefield of adolescence.

If the teen years are a difficult passage, Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood seeks to map the journey, at least as it relates to girls. Lisa Damour divides this “tangle” into seven strands (parting with childhood, harnessing emotions, etc.) and offers wisdom drawn from her research and experience to help parents and, really, anyone who has girls in their care to understand and assist the process. Her advice is clear-headed, to the point and often surprising.

Psychology Today

Dr. Damour expertly guides in the touchiest areas of development and social difficulties faced by parents of daughters.

Untangled is like having a 24/7 therapist at your beck and call. Dr. Damour tells you how to address the sensitive issues (privacy, friendships, harnessing emotion and how the teen brain functions; contending with adult authority; planning for the future; body perception; and entrance into the world of romance) that as a parent you may be reluctant to bring up, but feel are essential to discuss or address in some way.